The Brain That Changes Itself; Norman Doidge, 2007. Penguin Books, Ltd.
Dr. Norman Doidge discusses a very important paradigm shift, discussing the ‘neuroplasticity’ of the brain.
Getting the Love You Want; Harville Hendrix (also the Study Guide, and Workbook), 2003, Atria Books
I have described this book and the therapeutic approach in the section under Couples Counselling.
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love; Sue Johnson, 2008, Little Brown and Company.
This author and therapist maintains that we are not ‘wired’ for isolation. Her therapeutic approach attempts to help a couple create a secure bond in their relationship. She maintains that we are designed to bond.
Coming Apart: Why Relationships End and How To Get Through the Ending of Yours. Daphne Rose Kingma. 1987, Conari Press.
This author offers a hand in showing how to deal with the pain of parting ways with partners and relationships and aids in our understanding of our choice of partners and why relationships end.
Perfect Love-Imperfect Relationships. John Welwood., 2006, Trumpeter Books, Shambhala Publication Inc.
This book creates a path, or process, for healing deep seated grievances we hold against others for not loving us better, and against ourselves for not being more worthy of being loved. It helps us to gain freedom from seeing ourselves as victims and looking to others to validate our true nature and basic goodness.
When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times; Pema Chodron. 2000, Shambhala Classics.
This author teaches us that there is only one approach to suffering that is of lasting benefit. This involves facing our painful situation (s) with friendliness and curiosity.
Start Where You Are: A Guide to Compassionate Living; Pema Chodron, 1994. Shambhala Classics.
This book expands on percepts presented in When things Fall Apart. She presents guidance on how to make friends with ourselves and develop genuine compassion for others. She frames her teaching on Tibetan Buddhist slogans (principles) to help us develop courage to deal with our inward pain and to discover joy, well-being, and confidence.
Wherever You Go There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation In Everyday Life. Jon Kabat-Zinn. 1994, Hyperion.
This book is a clear and practical guide to meditation. It would appeal to those for whom meditation is still a new and unfamiliar undertaking, and it is, at the same time, an excellent source of support for those who are already practicing meditation. In many respects, it is a good first exposure to meditating, and for those who would be more comfortable with a more ‘secular’ introduction to meditation, it is especially appropriate.
ADDICTION AND CO-DEPENDENCY
The Heart of Addiction. Lance Dodes, 2002, Harper Collins Publishers
This author helps readers to understand the psychological and emotional underpinning of addiction problems. He also offers suggestions for how to approach the healing of these serious problems and behaviours. While this book particularly looks at alcoholism, it also incorporates other forms of addiction in its overview of the core dynamics associated with this problem.
Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction. Patrick Carnes, 2001. Hazelden
Patrick Carnes has been the pioneer author and leading authority on the problems of sexual addiction. You might want to go to Amazon.com and/or check his website. This is a helpful source of information.
In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior. Patrick Carnes and Elizabeth Griffen, et al., 2004, Hazelden.
These authors help develop our understanding of online sexual behavior, and the provide answers to questions asked by on-line addicts, offering tools for recovery from cybersex.
Co Dependent No More. Melody Beattie. 1987, Hazelden
This book is foundational to our understanding of the complex problems associated with co-dependency. It also offers suggestions for working through these issues.
Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He’ll Change. Robin Norwood. 1985. Pocket Books, New York.
This as a very gut-punching book about co-dependency. Although it primarily looks at the syndrome through the lense of being a woman who is dealing with this issue, it is hardly a far stretch for the reverse to be imagined, as well. Co-dependency is not exclusive to women! Learning about co-dependency is an important topic for ‘addicts’, as well. It plays into and supports the addictive system in a very profound way.
OTHER THERAPEUTIC RESOURCES
Resources in Mississauga
- Peel Addiction Assessment and Referral Centre, located in Mississauga
- Careers Plus, located at 55 Village Centre Place in Mississauga. Dr. Doug Schmidt offers career counselling and executive coaching, utilizing helpful psychological approaches to assessment and counselling.
Resources in Toronto
- Centre for Addictions and Mental Health (CAMH), located in Toronto
- Toronto Psychological Services, located in Etobicoke. This group of Psychotherapists and Psychological Associates specializes in assessments and treatment of children and youth, including school oriented assessments, and families who are experiencing conflict.
- Ontario Psychological Association: Registry of Treatment Providers
- William Cooke, MSW, M.Div, located in the Bloor West Village, is a family and marriage counselor, who specialises in loss and bereavement.